I just woke up with an alarming sound and realized that my mom is yelling since she is getting late for work. My dad, on the other hand, who generally is very calm and composed, is running to and fro from the kitchen. He is engrossed and is very busy packing lunch for her.
Then suddenly, I woke up now for real and realized that I was literally day dreaming..
For most of the people who are reading this the above scenario will seem a little awkward and unfamiliar. Imagine a world where my dream becomes a reality. Imagine a world without any gender discrimination. Just imagine…
I am a woman and in no way antithetical to the idea of women to be treated at par with men. I ardently believe that women can outdo men in all walks of life. Women should be judged (pun intended) based on their merit alone and nothing else.
Hi Readers, Now that I have clearly established myself as a feminist, I would like to draw your attention to a more pertinent issue concerning the current state of affairs for women where we need to break our silence.
Gender inequality has been a social issue in India for centuries. It’s a known fact that in many parts of our country, the birth of a girl child is still not welcomed (Thank god for Beti Bachao Beti Padao). And on the other hand, the birth of a boy is celebrated with pomp and ardour. The discrimination starts even before she comes into this world. In many cases, she is considered as a burden and under extreme circumstances, not even allowed to see the light of the world. And this discrimination continues in every aspect as she grows; be it education, marriage, career, health, protection, choice of clothing etc (The list goes on and on). She is always treated unequally.
As per my experience, I want to list out all the major instances where women face discrimination on the daily basis.
- When women go out to work, or when they earn more than their partner, men think that their pride and family’s honor will be destroyed.
First and foremost, who asked their opinion? And how exactly is a women’s mobility related to “their honor”. Rather than her earning potential, her skill set and her ability to hold a position in the competitive arena of the world as we see today and frankly, we are faring good.
- Then the dowry monster which treats women as a commodity for sale with a price.
Marriage is such a beautiful bond and we; Indians celebrate marriages like crazy and consider it as a pious and pure ceremony (Janam Janam ka rishta) as per our heritage and culture. However, In reality, this big fat Indian wedding can be traumatizing for many parents with daughters. And this is not limited to just the rural areas, I have seen this urban version of the dowry culture as well. In many cases, this ultimately leads to crime against women, ranging from emotional abuse and injury to even deaths. But does anyone care? The answer is NO…
- Women are still accosted and sexually harassed for their clothing choices.
In all my life, I haven’t seen anybody pointing out a boy for his dressing style. But on the other hand, girls are consistently targeted for wrong reasons. In our stereotypical society, men are allowed to wear anything and everything. They can even roam freely (even shirtless). But in case of women, a crop top or short skirt suddenly becomes an invitation to harass us. However aunties wearing sari with minimal clothing works culturally well for us.
“Aise kapde kyu pehne hai? Aise kapde pehnogi to yehi hoga” etc.
Dear society, DO NOT teach girls what to wear. Please save your energy and rather teach your boys to respect girls and treat them with respect.
- Doing the exact same job and being paid less than the male coworker is so unjust.
In my opinion, all employees should have right to equal pay, irrespective of their gender. Men should not be paid more for a particular job just because they are men. If a woman works the same hours, performs the same tasks with same efficiency, and is required to meet the same goals as her male counterpart, she is entitled to an equal pay.
These are just some examples and there are many more. The list goes on…
The reality sadly, is that we don’t give much importance to these instances.
Have you ever been a victim of sexual discrimination? If yes, then it’s time to Break the Silence and stand up for yourself. You should never allow anybody to stop you from achieving anything.
If they tell you to be silent, please keep talking. If they try to shame you, please keep talking. If you are tired, please keep talking. Because regardless of what they have promised, silence won’t save you. Silence is surrendering. Break that silence.
Stand your ground even if in the end your voice is a whisper at least you’re still voicing your truth, and you cannot be swayed from it.
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